5 Things Every Father Should Be Doing

5 Things Every Father Should Be Doing

I posted this picture of me “wooshing” with my son, Nation, on my personal Instagram and Facebook and said, “A father is for wearing a hat and cape to “woosh” with a son.” People loved it and I thought doing a quick podcast about being a father — and 5 things I believe every father should be doing — would make a good episode.

I was blessed with having a great dad. I was also blessed by having cousins and many friends who had great dads. Good male role models in my childhood did a lot of good for me personally and I aspire to be a good male role model not only to my son but to our daughters and to all our kids’ friends as they grow. Being a good dad certainly looks different in every family and situation but I think there are 5 things that every father — no matter where they are or what their situations are — should be doing.

1) Laugh With Your Kids

Not enough good can be said about laughter. It’s the “best medicine,” “instant sunshine,” and as Charlie Chaplin said, “A day without laughter is a day wasted.”

To laugh with your kids is one of life’s greatest joys yet I’ve known many times when I find myself not laughing almost as if I’m afraid to laugh. As if laughing turns me into something less admirable. This is, of course, nonsense and any time I catch myself NOT laughing at something truly laughable then I let it go. Some of the hardest times I’ve laughed in my 44 years of life thus far have been in the last 6 years with my kids.

2) Cry In Front of Your Kids

As important as laughing is the opposite emotional reaction of crying. This is a harder one for a lot of guys because it goes against our social idea of manhood. Even though I’m not a “crier” in the general sense letting myself cry when I do want to cry is, I think, important. I cry at movies and stories. I cry at happy things… sad things… if something makes me cry I cry and I don’t try to hide it from my children.

3) Work for Your Kids

We are living in a lazy, selfish world. That includes me. Showing your children that work is an important part of life is a value they will never regret having. I work from home. My father also worked from home in the 1970s as a wedding photographer and set a great example. He kept a strict schedule. If it was “working hours” we knew what he was doing. No matter where you work, however, make sure you’re giving your job the honor it deserves.

4) Keep Your Word

If there’s one thing a kid learns faster than anything else it’s whether or not they can trust you. That’s why I think it’s so important that if I say I’m going to do something I do it, or I don’t say anything at all. Empty promises are often worse than empty threats but the father who keeps his word in any situation is one to be admired.

5) Pray for and with Your Kids

I can honestly say I have prayed for my children since I was a child. I pray for their future and present friends. Their health, location, desires, likes and hearts and spirits are all part of my daily prayer.

Praying with them is just as important. Not only prayers before meals and/or at bedtime but a concerted effort to make certain they see that prayer is the first and most important step in any situation — seeking the Lord to praise Him, petition Him and subject to Him in all things.

A Few Caveats

Obviously these things all have conditions. You don’t want to laugh at things your kids think are funny which are truly dangerous, insulting, or otherwise not worthy of laughter. You don’t want to cry about things that they might cry about. Work should always stop at the end of the work day and never should it become more important than family. Explaining why you couldn’t keep your word when you can’t is as important as keeping it. The only thing that has no proviso is praying. It should happen all the time regardless.

There were so many other things I thought about putting on the list — letting yourself be wrong, asking forgiveness, reading the Bible and so on and so on. These 5 I decided on because they seemed to be ones that are important and often overlooked.

atypicalgeek Podcast 006 – Meryl Streep & The Misplaced Power of Celebrity

atypicalgeek Podcast 006 – Meryl Streep & The Misplaced Power of Celebrity

Do we give celebrities too much power? Do they truly live in a bubble? Is Mark Wahlberg right and should celebrities shut up about politics?!

Fair warning: this one is a bit of a rant. At least as much of a rant as I do.

Links I mention…

Mark Wahlberg Thinks Celebrities Need to Shut Up About Politics

atypicalgeek Podcast – 01/03/17 | Florence Foster Jenkins & PPOV

atypicalgeek Podcast – 01/03/17 | Florence Foster Jenkins & PPOV

Do you lie to yourself? Of course you do. But to what extent? In this week’s podcast I talk the movie Florence Foster Jenkins and how it reveals the power of our personal point of view. I also talk about new year resolutions and what’s coming up this year in the podcast.

Scriptures I reference…

Jeremiah 17:9
Isaiah 6:3

Movies I reference…

Memento
Florence Foster Jenkins
CBS Sunday Morning: 7/17/16: Florence Foster Jenkins

Websites I reference…

TalkinArabic.com

atypicalgeek Podcast 004 – 12.27.16 – 12/27/16

atypicalgeek Podcast 004 – 12.27.16 – 12/27/16

What is the efficacy of the cross? Where does faith originate? Did Jesus die for the possibility that all might be saved? These are a few of the questions I talk about on today’s podcast.

Verses I mention…

atypicalgeek Podcast 003 – 12.19.16 – 12/19/16

atypicalgeek Podcast 003 – 12.19.16 – 12/19/16

In today’s podcast I start off by talking briefly about the popularity of my Die Hard Ventilation Ornament then I move on to Star Wars and where my love for it began. I then review Rogue One (with and without spoilers) and also talk about Star Wars in general — what makes it so great and why weren’t the prequels as good as the more recent Episode VII and now Rogue One?

Which Star Wars has been your favorite?

Here’s the link to the article I reference on Circe Institute about “The Homeric Wonder of ‘The Force Awakens'”

Die Hard Ventilation Ornament

Die Hard Ventilation Ornament

So I made us a Die Hard Ventilation Ornament. Because Die Hard is, as we all know, one of the greatest Christmas movies ever.

I got the idea from this post. But there weren’t any instructions. So here are some quick instructions on how I did it with a file to print out.

First take some aluminum foil and spray glue it to a piece of cardboard. Do it shiny side down… so the dull side is showing. Then cut this into a rectangle. It doesn’t matter how big it is but when it’s folded it should be around 2″ high and 2.5″ wide. I had about 4 “corrugated sections” between each fold.

Poke a hole in the cardboard for the Christmas tree light to go through. Keep in mind the hole should be somewhere near the front and also to the right side (as you’re looking into the tube). John’s hand with the lighter will be in front of the hole.

Print out the file you downloaded from above. Spray glue this onto a thinner piece of cardboard — or print it on card stock. Then cut out his body, hand and head. The top of his head should be cut flat as well as the bottom of his “arm” where the hand will go in front of. John’s “left hand” should bend a bit in front of him when you close him up into the vent.

NOTE: If you’re using it the way I did with the light on the tree as John’s lighter flame then cut the flame off of the hand as well.

Use some tape to secure John’s body and his hand into the ventilation duct. Again, the hand should go in front of the hole and the body should go at a slight angle with the arm that’s holding the lighter — John’s “left” arm — closer to the hole.

NOTE: It is appropriate, but not required, to use “Duct tape” for this.

Tape John’s head to the “top” of the ventilation duct and close it all up. I wrapped it with white Duct tape to finish it off but you can do whatever you want. Then mount it on the tree by pushing a Christmas light through the hole.

Yippee Ki Yay, Merry Christmas!

atypicalgeek Podcast 002 – 11.29.16 – 11/29/16

atypicalgeek Podcast 002 – 11.29.16 – 11/29/16

Listen as I talk with Vince Zunic — “Coach Z” — about the place of professional sports in our society. Starting with Star Trek we work all the way through what the ideal of sports should be and can be and how it has been sorely lacking in today’s world.

Apologies for the slight glitches in my audio. Chalk it up to learning new recording software.

atypicalgeek Podcast 001 – 11.21.16 – 11/21/16

atypicalgeek Podcast 001 – 11.21.16 – 11/21/16

Talking Points

  • Introduction
    • who I am, etc.
  • Why I’m doing this…
    • I have been led to…
      • Not remaining silent…
        • “Ridicule is one of the favorite weapons of wickedness, and it is sometimes incomprehensible how good and brave boys [and men and women] will be influenced for evil by the jeers of associates who have no one quality that calls for respect, but who affect to laugh at the very traits which ought to be peculiarly the cause for pride.” — Theodore Roosevelt
    • People wanted me to…
  • What am I going to talk about?
    • Sovereignty of God / Christianity…
    • Political stuff…
      • Trump, supporting the president elect, being American, being vocal, not supporting things like Steve Bannon…
    • World events…
    • Geek stuff / cosplay…
    • Marketing and business…
    • Cigars & coffee…
    • Whatever is “hot” on Facebook…
    • Manliness & what it means to be a man…
      • Raising daughters and sons of character and integrity in today’s world…
  • Why should you listen?
    • To hear what a conservative liberal (or liberal conservative) thinks…
    • I asked some friends…
      • Greg B. — “Insightfulness and a unique way of being able to connect with those of different backgrounds and ways of life, off the top of my head.”
      • Oscar M. — “Well you are not your “typical” Christian. You are on the geeky side. And it’s not something you hide it’s just who you are as a person”
      • Curtis C. — “They should listen because you’re witty and have knowledge pertaining to a wide array of topics.”
      • Greg H. — “I think that people should listen to you to be introduced to new ideas and get a fresh perspective on on old ones.  They can experience personal growth but with a sense of humor, and increase their awareness on everything from Geek culture to timeless spiritual Truth.”
      • Janelle R. — “You offer an perspective that will cause people to think & an understanding that will make everyone feel welcome.”
      • Stephen C. — “…people should listen because you have unique, valuable, and entertaining perspectives on issues that matter much and little. Some would assume your perspective because of certain commitments you have (faith, politics, etc) but you do not let yourself be pigeonholed into positions/beliefs simply due to the expectations most often attached to those commitments summarized in titles.”